Are you starting to wonder whether life in the city has become unsustainable?

You might have started asking yourself the big questions: move to another UK city, another country, or even return to one’s home country. But each option carries emotional and practical weight.

You studied hard, built a career, or worked your way up. Yet the reality is a sense of being stuck, priced out, and constantly questioning what comes next.

Many young and mid-career professionals find themselves in an uncomfortable middle space: educated, employed, ambitious… yet unable to afford a home, unsure where to live or work next, and uncertain when or whether to start a family.

Even with a stable job, home ownership feels further away than ever. Renting in London or other UK cities can be miserable: sky-high rents, unreliable landlords, and the constant risk of being asked to leave at short notice. The traditional route of buying a home, settling down, and starting a family seems increasingly unattainable, postponed indefinitely, or simply unrealistic.

Should I Leave or Stay?

Many are asking themselves the big questions: move to another UK city, another country, or even return to one’s home country. But each option carries emotional and practical weight.

Leaving London or other major cities can feel like giving up on opportunities, networks, and cultural richness that took years to build.

Starting over abroad requires courage, savings, and the ability to navigate uncertainty.

Returning home for those who migrated to the UK can feel like taking a step backwards, even if it means better affordability or a higher quality of life.

And for some, the prospect of change itself is frightening. Uprooting a life, identity, career, and support system is not a decision to make lightly.

Mental and Emotional Reframing

One of the most important steps is your approach to the decision. It means sitting with the emotional weight of leaving a place that has shaped you: its energy, its chaos, its opportunities, and the amazing friends you’ve made. Moving away from London isn’t just a logistical decision but a chance to ask bigger questions:

What do you genuinely need at this stage of your life? Space? A walkable commute? Nature? A beach? A sense of community? Financial breathing room? Or perhaps the chance to grow into a version of yourself that London no longer makes room for?

1. Map Out Your Priorities

Take a moment to gently map out what truly matters to you over the next five to ten years. Think about the qualities that make you feel grounded and alive, whether that’s stability, a sense of community, more financial ease, space for creativity, time in nature, being closer to family, or the chance to grow your career.

When you get honest about your real priorities, the noise begins to quiet. Certain options naturally feel lighter, clearer, or more aligned, while others fall away without force.

You might realise you actually want to stay, but become more honest about the changes you need to make, e.g., apply for a new job, move to a cheaper part of town, or spend your money more wisely.

2. Test the Water Before Making the Big Leap

Before relocating, try:

• Remote “trial weeks” from another city

• Spending a month abroad or back home

• Short-term rentals in potential new areas

This reduces risk while giving you real insight into what life could look like elsewhere.

Once you have decided to return to your home country, give yourself two years to settle back in. The first year may be spent working through ‘leaving grief’, missing friends and the buzzy, cosmopolitan centre you left behind. Stay with it, move through this period and remember why you came back.

Most of my Australian, NZ, US, and South American friends who returned home found it hard to adjust at first, but eventually began to enjoy the upsides. Most never returned to London.

3. Explore Your Financial Baseline

Sometimes clarity comes from understanding your non-negotiables and what you’re actually working with. Financial planning, budgeting tools, or speaking with an advisor can help you evaluate whether staying, moving, or downsizing aligns with your goals.

4. Work With a Coach

Coaching is increasingly becoming a vital tool for those feeling stuck between multiple life paths. Coaching provides a neutral, structured space that friends and family can’t always offer:

• Surface what you truly want, not what others expect

• Separate fear from intuition

• Explore options you haven’t considered

• Build the confidence to make decisions

• Create an actionable plan that aligns with your long-term vision

5. You can Change Your Mind

One of the biggest blockers to clarity is the fear of making the “wrong decision.” But decisions can evolve. You are allowed to try, learn, adjust, and shift your course.

Gaining clarity often begins by tuning in to the questions beneath the surface: What is important to me right now? What do I want my days to feel like? What kind of life am I actually trying to build? When you allow yourself to explore the emotional side, not just the practical one, you begin to see the shape of a future that feels sustainable and aligned.

If you have any questions or would like to schedule a free discovery call, please feel free to reach out via my contact form.

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